Lawyer and Writer

Many days, I enjoy my job. Most of the time, it's quite stressful, and sometimes I get burned out and frustrated. Often, I think about my clients the last thing before I fall asleep and the first thing when I wake up. I try not to think about them too much outside of work, but it's difficult, at times.

But when I help someone in a small way to heal the wounds of a separation, help a family to figure out how to live positively even as separated people, or help someone to protect their children from a parent who might harm them, it's worth it.

But there are days when it's hard to remember that all people aren't assholes.

Just as a note. If you're going through a separation and you:

a) decide that the best way to deal with that is to physically harm your ex in some bizarre attempt to stop her from wanting to leave you, or

b) decide that the best way to stick it to that bitch you married is to go to court and lie to a judge so that your daughter must spend the weekend with you instead of being the flower girl in her cousin's wedding, or

c) decide that the best way to deal with having a restraining order placed on you by your ex is to follow her sister around town for hours instead

You are an asshole.

Don't be an asshole.

During my vacation, I read Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter. I'm vaguely aware that there was a movie, which I haven't seen. I just thought the book sounded neat, so I read it.

I read it in ebook format, on my Kobo e-reader. In this historical fantasy novel, an old secret journal is uncovered which reveals that Abraham Lincoln - yes, that Abraham Lincoln - was secretly a vampire hunter.

I have a funny feeling that there may have been pictures and/or formatting that didn't translate into the ebook version, but I could be wrong. I haven't checked a physical copy to determine if it's true. If so, I'm sad, but it didn't hugely impact my enjoyment of the book.

Overall, I found it very interesting and engaging. It's a fun, quick read, and I read the entire book in an afternoon.

I don't know much about the American civil war, and it was interesting to learn something about this historical event that I never studied in school. The author did a good job working real history and the "secret history" in together so that you could almost (but not quite) believe that it was really true that vampires existed in civil war era United States.

Also (spoiler) Abraham doesn't have sex with any vampires!

Worth checking out, especially if you enjoy historical fantasy and/or vampire novels that aren't just about sexual wish-fulfilment.

I had a crazy day, today, so I suspect this post is going to be pretty short. Oh well.

A couple of months ago, I made a post about Coursera, a website where one can take free university courses on a variety of subjects. I was pretty excited about the idea, and I'd signed up for a half a dozen different courses. The courses are taught primarily through the watching of videos, the doing of small assignments and the taking of quizzes.

Now I've completed four courses, and I thought it was time to talk about it again.

Overall, I'm really pleased about this discovery, and I think I'll continue to take Coursera courses for as long as it holds my attention.

I've taken a course on pharmaceuticals, a course on genetics, one of international criminal law, and one on nutrition. In all four courses, I've learned some pretty amazing things.

I wound up quitting the Pharma course halfway through, because I found that I'd learned the few things I wanted to learn, and the requirements for course completion were far too rigorous for it to be worth it to me to actually get the certificate of completion. But the other three courses I stuck through and received certificates for.

There's really no downside to Coursera. If you're not enjoying the course, you can always quit. There's no cost and really no spam. The courses range from sciences to computers to social subjects, and more.

The main thing to be cognizant of is checking the syllabus to see what the completion requirements are and taking a realistic look at your life. There was a period when I felt pretty overwhelmed, which was part of why I quit the one course. I don't think I could ever manage more than 2-3 courses at a time. The nutrition course was a huge time suck, because there were so many videos, but I stuck it through because I was learning so much that was really valuable to me. Right now I'm in the midst of a science fiction and fantasy literature course, which is also a big time investment, since I'm having to try to find time to read all these great stories. But I'm enjoying it and trying not to stress about being constantly behind.

Be aware of your limits and don't attach too much importance to it, and I guarantee you'll learn a lot.

It's been a while since I did a review! I actually read this book quite a while ago and I've been meaning to do a review but the moment just didn't come until now. Anyway, off we go.

I learned about this book on the Daily Show, when the author, Brené Brown was interviewed about it. I downloaded I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power from Audible, and it can be found: here.

It's a non-fiction book about the impact of shame on people, and how to overcome feelings of shame in yourself. Brown explores what shame is, how it impacts people in a negative manner and whether there's any redeeming quality to shame, and various methods with which to deal with shame and prevent it from having a negative impact on your life.

I don't know if listening to the book improved it over reading it. Sometimes the experience of listening to the words being read to me made it more powerful, but there were aspects of it - statistics, lists and the like - that occasionally made the spoken word more difficult to follow. I think this is pretty much inevitable with non-fiction work of this type. I did find the reader to be very good, though I think it would have been a nice touch if it had been Brown herself, especially since the book is written largely from her perspective.

I found it a difficult book to listen to, but also extremely rewarding. Through the stories shared by Brown, of hundreds of people she's interviewed, I could recognize things in my own life which make me feel shame, and explore that feeling in a constructive way. It's incredible how insidious shame can be, and from reading the book, I see that while guilt and regret can be constructive, there's no positive aspect to feeling shame. Shame demoralizes and holds people back.

There were times when I cried listening to it, but overall I'm glad that I got myself through it. I do feel as though my life has been improved from the read.

This book comes highly recommended.

I had a rather awkward conversation with a taxi driver today.

I came out as a lesbian when I was in highschool. I got together with my wife more than 14 years ago, while I was in university. I don't really care if that dates me. From the moment I decided to come out of the closet, I committed to be open and honest about my sexuality, and to answer any question I was asked. I figured that education would be the only way that I could work towards avoiding prejudice.

Over the years, it's worked pretty well. My parents were already pretty accepting of homosexuals before I came out, and quickly accepted me for who I am, though there were some pretty personal questions before I got there, and my mother spent some time very worried about my future.

I've never had a problem at any job, or in my current profession. I find that being honest and simply talking about my wife the same way I would talk about my husband if I were straight, without making a big deal about it, forces my casual acquaintances into a social position of not making a big deal out of it, as well. I've had coworkers come to me later and thank me for my attitude, saying that it made it easier for them to work through it and come to see me being with a woman as normal, because I treated it as normal.

Just as planned.

In November of last year we purchased a house and moved into a more rural town than any we had lived in before. We've met many of our neighbours, some of whom are also LGBT. It's a wonderful neighbourhood and we really love living here. Nevertheless, while it hasn't changed our behaviour, but compared to Vancouver, Chilliwack is white-washed and conservative, though they're only an hour's drive apart.

Today I had occasion to take a taxi home from the courthouse, and my driver and I got to talking. I mentioned my wife, and the driver hastened to mention that her roommate was trans* and going to be going through sexual reassignment surgery, and furthermore that while "some people" might be taken aback by me mentioning that I had a wife, she didn't have a problem with it. "Oh good," I said.

Then she asked me if she could ask a personal question. She asked me "How do you know which one of you is the husband, and which one is the wife?"

"We're both the wife," I said. "Oh," she said. "That makes sense."

I didn't know people really wondered about that.

I feel good that I had the opportunity to talk to that woman and answer her question. I hope that it made some small difference for herself in accepting and overcoming those last vestiges of homophobia.

If you have any similar stories, I'd love to hear them.

After I made my last post, I received a rather interesting private message on another social networking site.

Someone I don't know apparently saw my post about how Amazon had blocked my book to question whether or not it had been plagiarized from someone else's content on the web, and wanted to commiserate. S/he linked me to a blog post of their own in which they reported on the same thing happening to their book, and their response to Amazon.

In response to Amazon questioning their book, they sent back an angry letter filled with exclamation points, outlining that they had simply been promoting their book, and declaring that they had done nothing wrong. They accused the email writer of being rude. The email they received from Amazon was identical to the one I received, and honestly I didn't find it rude at all - professional, not rude.

Professional in the manner the person who contacted me was not.

The main thing that the author seemed to be upset about was a 'guilty until proven innocent' policy of blocking the book until it was proven that it was not plagiarized. Amazon cleared their book for release quickly, and so far as I was able to tell from the vitriol-filled blog post, their book release was only delayed by two days.

I was left pretty bemused, to be honest. Amazon is far from a perfect company and there is a lot to get up in arms about when it comes to business practices. But this?

Amazon gets millions of self-published books. To automatically approve them and then investigate plagiarism, would allow many to slip through for days or weeks before action could be taken. They would have to detect the possible plagiarism and contact the author while the book was available for sale, and selling copies to unwitting readers, earning money. Anyone who put up a plagiarized book would simply ignore the questioning email for as long as possible, before Amazon finally pulled it, and then would move on to another attempt.

The advantage of the current procedure is that authors who are innocent are motivated to respond quickly and to give them the information they need. Those who don't respond are likely the ones with plagiarized books, and their books will never be approved for sale.

Personally, I do think that given the practical issues and the number of scammers out there, Amazon is doing the right thing. Even if I'm wrong, I found the author's response to be over the top and reactionary. To me, it's never worthwhile to react to someone doing their job with anger and unprofessionalism. If the author does see this post as well, I hope they reconsider their reaction the next time someone doing a job contacts them with some bad news.

Today Amazon announced the newest expansion on the self-publishing-on-the-Kindle landscape - Kindle Worlds. In a nutshell, Kindle Worlds will allow fanfiction authors to publish their fanfiction on the Kindle, and sell it. Any sales will pay royalties both to the copyright holder of the original property, and to the fanfic author.

Now, for full disclosure, I have been writing fanfiction as long as I've been writing, which is a damn long time. I am also on staff for the Organization for Transformative Works, which not only runs one of the most popular fanworks archives on the web, but is a non-profit which in part deals with the legitimacy of fanworks from a legal standpoint. I'm also an author with properties of my own.

Personally, I'm for fanfiction in a general sense. If anyone ever writes fanfiction or creates fan works about my own properties, I will count that a positive thing. In my opinion, fanfiction does great things for copyright. But this post isn't about that - it's about Kindle Worlds. From the perspective of people involved in the creation of fanworks, it has always been the cardinal rule - Thou Shalt Not Sell Thine Fanfiction, Lest Thou Incur the Wrath of the Author. Kindle Worlds seems poised to change all that.

Based on my reading of the limited information on the Amazon site, there are some big caveats.

Firstly, you can only publish fanfiction in the fandoms that are allowed - presumably Amazon will need to negotiate with each copyright holder for the right to include them in the program. I think that's really key. If someone is going to profit by their fanfiction, it should be with the blessing of the one who created the world. I think that this could create a wonderful symbiotic relationship, even more than fanfiction already does, without forcing any copyright holders into a situation where they feel threatened by the - shall we say - legitimized fanfiction.

Secondly, they won't allow any porn, offensive material, bad fanfiction, crossovers, or "illegal or infringing content". Setting aside the last one, it makes me wonder if there will actually be any fanfiction that qualifies for the program. Most importantly, they really don't say what's illegal or infringing. Isn't all fanfiction sort of illegal and infringing at this point? No one really knows, which has always been the problem.

I truly hope there will be some really clear guidelines about that, or I seriously doubt this will take off. Fanfiction authors are already inclined to batten down the hatches at any hint that their hobby is being noticed by the mainstream world at large. To violate the cardinal rule and risk being sued is something I think few people will be willing to do, unless they can trust that the risk is minimal enough to be worth it.

As a final point, a Forbes article on the announcement has a quote in there saying that the contract will give Amazon full rights to the fanfic, and the writer will not retain any publication rights over the work. According to John Scalzi (President of SFWA and all around intelligent dude), this clause makes this into a "Work for Hire" sort of contract where you are literally giving your fanfic away in return for royalties on the sale, for the full term of copyright - which would be your life plus 75 years I do believe (thanks, Disney).

This is a huge deal, and one I hope they remove from the final contract. I didn't see any hint of that on the Amazon site so far, but Amazon is only giving generalized information at the moment.

I don't write in any of the fandoms that will be offered upon original launch, and I'm also concerned about Amazon having the right to republish and profit from any fanfic I did publish in the program if I chose to do so, so at this point I'm very much in "wait and see" mode. Other people have tried to profit off of fanfiction in the past, and it has always met with an extreme negative backlash. But none of those people have been Amazon, so we'll see where this goes.

So I know I said I wouldn't be mentioning this again, but I learned a few things on this first foray into the world of pen names. I thought people could benefit from it.

Yesterday I uploaded my story to all three of my distributors - Amazon, Kobo, and Smashwords.

Both Amazon and Kobo weren't a problem at all. They have a place for putting in the author's name, and my two books are now sitting on my respective dashboards, separated out by author name, but otherwise fully integrated.

Smashwords doesn't have a field for this. When I uploaded the file, it popped up under my real name and I couldn't find any way to change it. This is... a problem.

I've emailed them to ask for help and I'm still waiting to hear back. I'll let you guys know how that goes.

I figure if they simply don't support multiple author names, I'll have to create a separate account. The problem there, is that it will add yet another place where sales are accumulating, and further delay my payday. Furthermore, it increases the number of places I need to log in to check my sales and such. It's annoying, but not insurmountable.

I'm out of town for the long weekend. On Monday I'll tell you how I accidentally attributed my gay erotic vampire story to an author who writes about the Amish.

Over the last couple of months, you've likely seen me refer several times to an anthology I'm putting together, compiling all of my Grim Hunter stories. If you look back on the tags for that series, you'll see quite a bit of discussion about it.

I've been doing a lot of thinking about this. These are erotic stories, and while there's nothing illegal about them, I've recently had the ex-husband of one of my clients stalk my LinkedIn and make false reports about me to the Law Society. It's all handled, but it's made me rethink my strategy a bit.

I have a YA series in the works, and I'm also a lawyer. Silly as it may seem, some people may have issues putting this together with writing gay erotica about vampires.

So I've decided to release the Grim stories under a pseudonym. Thus, this will be the last time I talk about it in this particular blog, unless I create a new blog or website for the pseudonym. If you want to keep up with these stories and be notified when they come out (and the first of them is going to be released as a single very, very soon) please join my mailing list. The link for that is at the bottom of this post and many of the posts I make. All announcements for both Jessica Steiner and the works under the pseudonym - Suzanne Fisher - will be made there.

I'd love to hear thoughts on pseudonyms! Have you ever considered using one? Or do you use one? Why?

Okay, I wasn't going to double up and instead was just going to finish on May 1st, but then I just decided to go for it and get this finished.

One of the things that I've always struggled with is names. Names of characters in particular. Now, I've already talked about language formation, and there is definitely some information in there that is helpful for making alien names. But what about the rest of the names?

Firstly, I try to think about what sort of name I want. I think about the feeling of the name - should it be short or long, smooth or harsh? Should the name evoke any particular ideas, or feelings? Is there any particular ethnicity or nationality that the character should come from? Do you want to reference anything with the name, such as a particular meaning or historical figure? The choices I make are helpful in settling on a name in the end.

For example, when I named the main character of Dreaming - Prescott Samuel Cox - I was naming a lawyer, from a family of lawyers. I wanted the name to sort of sound like that. I also wanted Sam to be embarrassed of his first name, because it was so traditional and old-fashioned, and so he goes by his middle name. In the Dream world, everyone calls him by his true name, Prescott. It's one way that I differentiate the book between when Sam is in the real world, or in the dream world.

Once I've figured out a few criteria, then I mine various sources for actual names to use. I get names from a couple sources. Sometimes I'll steal a first or last name from a person I know (A few characters' last or first names are the same as one of my clients - but never both!!)

Mostly all I do is google for baby names. There are a tonne of websites with first names that you can choose from. There are also a tonne of websites with lists of surnames by nationality. There are websites that allow you to search by letter, by nationality, by meaning. When you start scanning lists, you will probably find something you like.

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I hope you've enjoyed this month and all of my tips. I'll be putting all of these posts together, editing them and fleshing them out, and putting out a book. If you've liked the information in these posts, I hope you like the final version.