Yeah, people do actually wonder about that... I don't deal very well with that question, to be honest (although I often hear it phrased as "which one is the man and which one is the woman?"), but I recognize that I need to stop my knee-jerk reaction of wanting to punch the speaker in the face whenever I hear it. I'm sure it reflects in my tone, and that doesn't exactly do anyone any good!

I want to be the type of person that people can ask questions of--and I think I am, for the most part--but certain things really get to me, and I don't know how to curb my initial anger. (For example, when Tif was getting her last tattoo, the artist asked her what the gay community thought about a political topic. She calmly explained that, overall, the gay community felt a certain way but that by no means reflected the way everybody in the community feels... Whereas I, having a seething hatred for generalities, would have said something like, "I don't know; how does the STRAIGHT community feel about it?" in a way that would probably not welcome further conversation.)

In all likelihood, if I had been in your position, the conversation with the taxi driver would have turned out very differently (or stopped before it even got started; my response to confrontation is either fight or flight!).

How do you all stay so calm? :(